(2) Hablemos de Ceremonias

Let's continue then.

In the Dominican Republic:

Adventist ceremonies are more intimate and less rigid. In this case, rather than "pomp and circumstance," it's more of a "show." At least that's my experience. The best part is not having to stand up and sit down thousands of times.

The wedding show consists of each pair of bridesmaids and their escorts representing a stage of courtship. First to enter is the maid of honor (in spanish it is "solitary bridesmaid") followed by the other couples, children with petals, and finally the bride, while everyone stands.

Of course, I've been a bridesmaid many times, along with the rehearsals and the excitement created among the bridesmaids about who will be your escort. Unfortunately for you all, I don't have photos of these scenes. Who knows, maybe I'll delight you with them later.

Traditionally there was no exchange of rings, although now it seems to be allowed. I also don't remember rice being thrown. These weddings lacked legal validity until recently because Adventist ministers didn't have the authority to marry people.

The wedding venue isn't relevant for Adventist weddings; I remember witnessing them in church but also at the banquet location.

In Estonia:

Now, in Estonia I've only witnessed civil weddings.

In both cases, they were in nature with barrels filled with ice and bottles of beer and water at the "entrance" (what you can call an entrance in a forest). Guests remain standing around the couple, although there are some chairs for the elderly.

The wedding I remember most clearly is that of Alvarillo's sister, where Karel, the husband, was waiting for her with live music while she, Anu, approached gloriously and happily. People make room for her, and the officiant begins to speak.

What do they say? Well, I haven't the foggiest, ladies and gentlemen, as I know 3 words in Estonian and don't know how to use them in a single sentence. I don't remember them exchanging vows, though Alvar thinks they did. There is a notary or a simple officiant like in American movies that makes the whole process official.

Now he's telling me what they were talking about during the ceremony. Too late. They exchange rings, and that's it.

There's nothing to throw at the newlyweds. "We don't do that in Estonia," Alvar tells me. He'll tell you about his experiences in the next entry.

Everyone applauds and proceeds to the banquet site, which we'll discuss in a few weeks.

Us:

What will we do?

Well, surely something in the Estonian style, without complications, but with rice at the exit, as some traditions must be maintained.

And no! Neither pigeons nor sparrows explode from eating raw rice. They appreciate the extra support.

Thanks for following us this far, see you next time!

*Picture of bridesmaids in DR from my mum's album because I am unable to find a pic of me as a bridesmaid.